Some days, being a good parent makes you feel like an ass.
Today is one of those days.
One of those days where you find yourself in the place where you hoped with all of your might you wouldn’t find yourself in at all. But you’re there…and you have to do the hard thing…because it’s what you said you’d do.
You have to tell your 5 year old that he won’t be allowed to join the family to go to the circus… because he got in trouble at school… again.
We expect better from him. His teacher expects better from him. He’s VERY capable of being obedient and self controlled….it just seems he’s choosing not to be at school lately. And I understand how my parents felt when they actually said the words “this hurts me more than it hurts you.”
I’m crying about it too. I’m sad that we can’t do something all together that I’ve been looking forward to doing since we went 2 years ago after my littlest guy was first born. I’m sad that he’ll probably remember this consequence forever…I have a few like this that I still remember from when I was a kid. I guess at least we’re willing to pay for counseling when he needs it as an adult…it’s the least we can do to cover up our failures. But I think this isn’t a failure…it’s the right thing to do…the hard thing…to keep our word so that he knows, no matter how many times we say it….we mean what we say and for better or worse, he can trust our word.
It’s important to be a person of your word. Letting your “yes” be your “yes”…and your “no” be your “no.” Even when it sucks.
And I have to hope and pray that somewhere in all of this, he learns integrity….that doing what we say is important and valuable. That the way we behave does often change what we have the opportunity to do. And that often in life…so often in life…we don’t get second chances.
But for today…I’m sad and I feel like an ass…even if I know that the reason I feel like an ass is the right thing to do.
So….anyone else? What’s the hardest right decision you’ve had to make that leaves you feeling awful? Comment below and help a girl feel a little less awful?
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entry #5 Laura Pieratt
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